So, you really believe I got up one morning and said “You know what? Today, I think I’m going to become addicted to something. Something destructive, something damaging!”
That’s my goal in life, to be the worst person I can possibly be.
My addiction was to alcohol. To me it was a slow form of suicide, I drank to the point of oblivion; black-out! Does that sound like the choice of a rational mind to you?
You see, there is a very fine line in social acceptance, where alcohol is concerned and that’s where recovery can be hard.
Alcohol is legal, it’s cheap; it’s socially acceptable. If you tell someone you have quit smoking, you may get a pat on the back, a “well done”! Tell someone you’ve quit drinking and you have to explain yourself; you’re looked at like you’ve grown a second head! You’re seen as unsociable. “Well, one won’t hurt you!”, “Why don’t you drink?”. Yet you wouldn’t necessarily ask the same question to an ex-smoker! It’s now socially acceptable to be an ex-smoker, but not an ex-drinker, that is seen as shameful – “Oh, so you have a problem?”
One of your gang is seen as someone who can hold their drink – they are idolised, the cool one; the good laugh; the life and soul of the party. The one in your gang, who can’t hold their drink, is seen as weak, a wimp, totally uncool, taken the mick out of.
Then you take it a step further – to an addiction. In comes the judgement, the stigma. Let’s isolate them from society. The very society that led me to believe it’s socially acceptable to drink.
Kind of a contradiction, don’t you think? That this same society then tells me it’s a lifestyle choice of only my doing. The only lifestyle choice I see, is when you realise that you have a problem and you then choose to do nothing about it, to stay down, to not choose recovery and life over continuing and dying.
My choice was to stop drinking. To stand up to social acceptance and its fine lines; its stigmas and its judgements. Because my choice is to be me! Not what society chooses me to be!
I choose a life of substance, not substance misuse.
By Michelle Quigley
If you or someone you know has been affected by addiction or substance misuse, there are a number of ways in which you can find help. Try visiting your GP or taking a look at the NHS Website.